The Oberlin Review

Obies Create Inclusive Dating App for Long-Term Relationships

Carson Li

February 14, 2020

Imagine an online dating app that doesn’t show you a person’s photo at first. Instead, you match with the other person based on compatibility — only then does the app reveal users’ photos to one another. Paire, an online dating app for Oberlin students that is currently searching for beta testers, will function exactly this way. It differs from most mainstream dating apps in that it is designed for people of all genders and sexualities looking for relationships — not hookups — based on personality, rather than appearance. College second-year Kabir Karamchandani, a Computer Science and Creative Writing major, is one of the main founders of Paire. Over Winter Term 2020, they built a team and s...

Leo Ross and Bethany Gen, Queer Varsity Athletes

Leo Ross and Bethany Gen, Queer Varsity Athletes

September 13, 2019

Varsity basketball player Leo Ross and varsity soccer player Bethany Gen, both College third-years, have been dating for the past ten months. The two athletes met while working as Preventing and Responding to Sexual Misconduct trainers, a program designed to educate students on combating gender-based discrimination and sexual violence. Throughout their relationship, they have navigated their position as queer Oberlin students, with the added layer of being queer varsity athletes. Their relationsh...

People Should Treat Every Day Like It’s Valentine’s Day

Maddi Kimball, Contributing Writer

February 15, 2019

This year, I swore I wouldn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day. Not because I am anti-Valentine’s Day, or because Cupid skipped over me this year, but because I find myself wondering what the point of Valentine’s Day truly is. Prioritizing someone for a hot second, and then falling back into a monotonous cycle of pushing them aside until an anniversary comes around? Take it from me, a girl who was so fed up with this cycle in her own relationship that she chose Valentine’s Day of all days to end a relationship — which was rather convenient, as chocolate was half-off the next day. I don’t know about you, but Valentine’s Day seemed so much more palatable as a small child, when it meant that you made cute...

Valentine’s Day Too Often Compromises, Cheapens Intimacy

CJ Blair, Columnist

February 13, 2015

If there’s a holiday that’s further out of touch with the reality of what it celebrates than Valentine’s Day, I haven’t found it yet. While the marriage of the commercial and the emotional is a trend far from alien to American holidays, this connection is more contrived and unwarranted with V-Day than any other. Though it would be an exaggeration to claim that Valentine’s Day is a year-long source of worry, its adverse consequences are often ignored in favor of narratives that fit the bill of a romantic February 14. Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love, which is not bad in and of itself. Yet the ubiquity of hearts and roses and the rhetoric of the importance of public displays of love have transformed...

Personal Definition of Home Provides Contentment, Stability

CJ Blair, Columnist

December 12, 2014

The brief period between Thanksgiving and winter break is an interesting one for students. With the quick turnaround between break, finals and another break, many Obies find themselves shuffling between one familiar place and another faster than they might have ever done before. This constant change of setting prompts students to ask themselves: What is home, exactly? This may seem like another philosophical question every college student is bound to ask themselves. In reality, though, forming an answer to this particular question is substantially more significant than it is for other ones like it. This is because a home grounds a person in the world, both physically and emotionally. Having a good one provides some...

Glad We Had This Talk

Julia Chauvin, Columnist

December 4, 2009

So what if you’re too busy to be properly in a relationship? What if you just don’t have the time to do proper relationship things, like spend time together? It’s getting to the end of the semester; clearly, this is the time to do work if you haven’t done any all year, and that means you are stressed and busy. For God’s sake, there are only two weeks left in the semester! What are you supposed to do? Are you supposed to do all of your work and be in a productive, healthy relationship at the same time? I think that the best part about this question is that my answer is, “Hell if I know!” I know the answer if you are someone who is on top of your work. Then you wouldn’t have to write a 25-page paper...

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