Obies Answer Your Love and Dating Questions

Tinder. Some hate it, some love it. You find yourself aimlessly swiping, not really paying attention, and might even accidentally Super Like someone. Then you match with that one person you’ve had a crush on since the beginning of your first year. What now? Lucky for you all, we crowdsourced answers to all of your Oberlin love and dating questions!

What’s a good first line on Oberlin Tinder?

Everybody has their unique way of introducing themselves on Tinder. Some (most) people’s choice is to not say anything at all. If you’re feeling bold, though, you could try out some of these suggested lines.

Ava Schigur, College second-year: I always say “hey” with a winky face. 

Lillian McFarlin, College second-year: That is not a good line. 

Schigur’s line is simple, but maybe not effective. 

Claire Rothstein, College third-year: Hey girl, let me use your meal swipes. My plan is all out. 

Rothstein is taking this Tinder match as an opportunity to eat a Rathskeller fourth meal.

Nina Hoyt, College third-year: I’m in your walls. 

Hoyt wants to leave a strong first impression. 

The consensus: Saying nothing at all and waiting until you awkwardly bump into your match in the hallway or at a party might be your best choice. 

So, you matched on Tinder and sent a good first line. Now what? You ask them out. Oberlin campus isn’t the biggest by any means, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to narrow down the options of first date spots.

Where is the best place to take a first date on campus?

McFarlin: On campus? Stevie. Just kidding.

Schigur: Slow Train Cafe. 

Anika Kennedy, College third-year: That’s not really on campus, though. 

McFarlin: Yeah, but where else would you take them? The Rat? 

Sophia Nicholson, College first-year: What about a picnic in Tappan Square? 

Schigur: Yeah, that’s cute. Or Cat in the Cream. Bowling! 

There are plenty of cute spots for a romantic first encounter, but if you want to stick closer to home, Rothstein may have a better idea. 

Claire Rothstein: Stevie for the terrible end-of-the-week leftovers. 

The consensus: Go off campus. It’s more appealing. 

Maybe Tinder isn’t for you. That doesn’t mean all hope is lost — you can find your future partner anywhere on campus. 

 Where is the best place to find people on campus?

Nicholson: The ’Sco.

Schigur:, obviously. 

McFarlin: The weight room. 

Abby Cannon, College third-year: The Science Center Atrium. 

Rothstein: Severance Hall, where the Psychology majors are. 

Zack Butter, College fourth-year: Mudd Center fourth floor. 

Rothstein: That’s where the unsexy people are. 

Vivian Wolfson, College first-year: Biggs GoYeo line.

Frances McFetridge, College first-year: Azzie’s for sure.

The consensus: Leave your room, you’re bound to find someone. 

That special someone might be closer than you think. Imagine you wake up for your earliest class and sit right next to you is your dream partner. But as the semester goes on they, show up less and less. 

How do you slide in with the person who sits next to you in your 9:30 a.m. (and never shows up)?

Hoyt: Send them the homework, share your notes.

McFetridge: It’s easier to flirt when you’re drunk, so get hammered at 9 a.m. If they’re there, you have someone to flirt with when you’re drunk. If not, then you have a really lit 9:00 a.m.

Your class crush is tired and needs your help catching up in class. That’s the perfect excuse to reach out, but you don’t have their number. What now? 

Cannon: Slide into their Obie email. 

The Obie email might be a severely underused tool when it comes to connecting with your class crush, or any crush. 

Can I slide into someone’s Obie email? Is it ethical to Blackboard message the hot person in class?

Schigur: Hell yeah! 

McFarlin: I would say yes. 

Schigur: I would totally go on a date with someone who slid into my email. 

Kennedy: No, you guys are wrong. If you know their email then just look up their Instagram and slide into their Insta instead. Don’t do it with their email. 

Schigur: No, I like the email method. It’s romantic. 

Wolfson: If you know their name, anything goes. 

The email method might not work for everyone, but College second-year Colvin Iorio sees sliding into someone’s email as an opportunity to get creative.

Iorio: You could have like a sexy subject line that draws them in, so I would say yes. 

Rothstein is proof that email may be the way to go.

Rothstein: Yes, yes, yes. Absolutely yes. That has gone really well for me. 

The consensus: Go for it. 

What about those in the Conservatory? Musical talent is attractive…right? 

How to not get the ick watching your jazz crush play at forum?

McFarlin: There’s no way. You would genuinely have to be so in love with the person. 

Schigur: Close your eyes! 

Nicholson: Don’t go. 

Rothstein: Well, being musically talented is sexy. If they’re not good, though, you should just leave. 

Wolfson: Reverse stage fright tactic: imagine them naked instead.

The consensus: Good luck!

You dated and it didn’t work out. Unfortunately, this is a small liberal arts college, so you’re bound to run into them again. Especially if you have the same major. Awkward. 

What to do if I end up in class with my ex next semester?

McFarlin: Leave. 

Schigur: Yeah, drop it. 

Kennedy: Sit on the opposite side of the classroom.

Schigur: No, sit next to them, awkwardly stare at them, and ask them what went wrong in the relationship. 

Nicholson: And then they’ll leave and you don’t have to. 

Schigur believes in being honest, but Rothstein thinks there is only one option.

Rothstein: Transfer. 

Cannon has a different approach altogether. 

Cannon: Look really hot everyday so they know what they’re missin’. 

The consensus: Buckle up for Oberlin Love and Dating.